Dating older guys and younger women
When it came to finding love in New York, Amber Soletti, a 42-year-old who lives in the West Village, had no luck dating older guys or men her own age.
While they were “well-established and articulate,” she wasn’t physically attracted to them and found they had too many issues.
There are great things about dating older women, and very bad things. First, as always, we need to get our definitions straight. Longtime readers know that in general, I separate the “older” vs. As I’ve discussed many times here, when a woman crosses over age 33 (if not sooner), her ASD spikes into the stratosphere and her entire attitude about dating, men, and sex changes forever.
Things that used to be enjoyable to her, like sex on the first or second date, or very casual sexual relationships, are now suddenly horrible and largely unacceptable.
“It was love at first sight,” Angal says of meeting Siegner, a buxom blonde who was a successful account executive at a graphic design company at the time.
And unlike his previous flings, Siegner wanted a serious relationship and was straightforward about her desires.
For purposes of this article, when I say “younger,” I’m talking about women age 18-32, and when I say “older,” I’m talking about women 33 , unless otherwise stated. In both cases, these women are unusual exceptions to the rule. I am not interested in discussing the unusual exceptions to the rule (other than acknowledging that they do indeed exist) and I will ignore any comments complaining that I’m generalizing (because I am) and that there are rare, unusual exceptions out there (duh, I know). Everything I say is within the context of the fast sex dating model I practice and teach, which is represented here (click to zoom): In this model, there are three separate phases: the pickup phase (getting a woman to agree to meet with you one-on-one), the dating phase (getting to sex as fast as possible, ideally on the second date/meet within 3-4 hours of total face time), and the relationship management phase (ongoing sex via a casual or serious relationship, either of which are nonmonogamous).
Siegner says they bring out the best in each other.They were introduced by Sutherland’s sister, who was one of Wipp’s law school classmates, at a beachside barbecue.Wipp was immediately attracted to Sutherland’s youthful energy, which was a far cry from the cynical guys closer to her age.“You’re less likely to date a younger guy who’s been divorced, has children or has sexual performance issues.” In 2011, she met Juan Cabrera, now 34, at one of her mixers and soon fell in love. “Millennial men are career-focused and want to travel with successful women and conquer the world together,” says Soletti, who notes she’s seen an uptick in established women signing up specifically to meet younger bucks at her speed-dating events.Such May-December couplings are no longer seen as relationship outliers — or indicative of deep-seated mommy issues.